So, we were invited by some parents from my kids school to go to Spain with them for summer break. Since the mother is originally from there we though it would be a good opportunity. So, we booked the trip.
During the trip planning, arrangements were not easy, the mother showed to be very demanding on her choices so we ended up having to split the group for few days in order to include our wishes on the trip. Before even leaving I was already dreading this trip to be honest.
But, here we go! During the trip she was rude to us in several occasions. I am not sure what exactly triggered her behavior but I sense it was when we decided to do something different from what she had planned for the group. For instance, on the very first day, after a long overnight trip and a having spent the afternoon at one touristic attraction, we decided not to go for a dinner at a restaurant she had planned to go with some of her family members – we were exhausted! She seemed upset.
The next morning, they were tired, of course, and woke up later. We woke up earlier and decided to go for a quick tour around the city. We had plans to go and meet her family for a trip in the suburbs. We were running around 20 mins late, she texted us and said that if we were late, they would not wait for us and we could get a taxi and go. I was shocked but I answered, I am sorry we are late, but please, don’t worry about us, if we are late, we will figure out something else. We ended up getting there before them!! She never apologized. During this trip she avoided talking to me.
After these 2 initial days, we went in different directions – thank God!!! because that was the best part of the trip. Few days later we got together in Barcelona. I will be honest, I was already very upset with her. And I absolutely hated the resort they insisted on booking for us. So, I was very quiet around her. On the last night, we were on a table talking, all 4 of us – wives and husbands – and she suddenly lashed out. Few minutes later her husband, who is a very nice person, funny and flexible, says: Let me call her and make sure everything is ok. Although he denied any problems, we could see on his face she was saying something very bad to him, we all left to the room.
The trip coming back to England was awful!! She was extremely rude! not talking to us at all! she would walk away in a very mad face! I asked her, is everything ok? and she rudely said; yes! When we came back, the next morning, I decide to text the group so we could hopefully end that bad experience and just pretend we were fine, after all, our kids go to the same classroom. I said the trip was great, we loved the country, the company and we were grateful for everything. The husband answered something politely. She said , “he is speaking for himself”. I was like ; wow!!! And few minutes later she says, we are getting divorce. I was so busy at that time that I did not answer. and then she text just me and my husband “I was very emotional, I shared too much. please don’t mention this to anyone until we have finalized the divorce” I then answered; ” I am sorry to hear you are going into a bad patch, you two are great together and I hope you can get through this stronger that ever.” The next day I offered to go out just us two for a drink just to vent, she said she was working till late but thank you for the offer.
Anyway, after this, she keeps being super rude to me whenever I see her at school or at the ballet classes they take together. Our girls like each other so they want to play together (they are 6 years old).
One day my husband asked her husband what happened and he said she got mad because he did not give much attention to her family. But now, I think she got jealous of me!! Let me tell you, I am not a sexy person! I have a nice relationship with my husband. I have zero attraction to her husband! yes, I talked more to him because he is nicer and polite but obviously I never hit on him or anything like that. .
Anyway, I decided to now stop talking to her. Whenever I see her, I no longer say hi. But this has been upsetting me a lot. I keep thinking about it, sometimes I get so anxious and mad that I lose patient with my own family! I dread the pick up time of fear to see her. Please, help me!!!!!