Over 3 years ago, I made a mistake. I got drunk and I was sending flirty Facebook messages to somebody else. Nothing went further than that but it was still wrong – I didn’t go into anything physical and never would.
Since then I have changed for the better, deleted all forms of social media, devoted myself into my home life and had a daughter, planning a wedding this year etc. I won’t be making the same mistake again and I don’t have any contact with a single member of the group of friends I was with at the time.
I told my fiancee I might look to get a Facebook account in the near future, to keep up with the right people after we’re married. She flat out refused, told me I wasn’t allowed to have one. I thought harsh, but fair enough you’re concerned and quite clearly don’t fully trust me yet.
Today I found out (through her telling me rather casually) that she has been sending emails and messages to convicted prisoners in the US via some prison penpal app (think it’s call jpay?) and I’m going a bit crazy.
Is it OK to hold my one mistake over me, deny me the chance to stay in touch with family and friends but it’s OK to talk to prisoners from the US? She’s already told me one particular prisoner says the British accent sounds like a “naughty schoolteacher” and has said “if only I could find someone like you when I get out”. She’s even told me she would like to meet him if he goes travelling when his sentence is over in 7 years. She’s planning to talk to this person for another 7 years?
Am I in the wrong here? I’m genuinely not a jealous person, she’s free to go out when she likes and enjoy herself and I trust her friends, but this seems a little strange?