Married 17 years this August with three children.
My wife is an elected board member where we live and has gotten very chummy/flirty with a fellow board member. They’ve established an additional foundation as an offshoot of this board where they work together along with another board they both now serve on. She has admitted to having feelings for him more than a year ago and claims they’re no longer there.
I’m constantly struggling with wanting to check her phone to see what they’ve been texting since in the past before I called her out on it they would exchange flirty messages regularly; nothing sexual but overly flirtatious and definitely not something I would ever dream of sending to another woman.
She refused my request to go to couples counseling because our schedules are so busy as she is also on a few other boards and committees that take up her time.
We have lots of good times together and I feel she is the love of my life but I hate the very mention of the other guy’s name. If we didn’t have children together I’m not at all sure we would still be together.