Tuesday 24th October 2017 is a day I will never forget…..
At the time I was a serving police officer, on that date my first grandchild was born, a boy. Also that day, I was informed that an ex girlfriend from two years ago had made a criminal complaint of rape against me and that I accessed police computer systems to find out her location, and phoned her up to say where she was and what she was doing.
Needless to say my world fell apart. I wasn’t arrested and wasn’t suspended and wasn’t moved department.
In the meantime she found me on Twitter and sent messages to some of my followers saying what I had done and had been to prison! And, wrote an online blog about me…..
A month later I was interviewed by colleagues who I vaguely knew about the alleged offences, needless to say I denied every part of her complaint and statement.
For 6 months I was left hanging, wondering what was happening as I heard nothing. Every single day I had this hanging over my head and every day I contemplated suicide and thought about it every day. Part of my brain said “you are going to prison” other part says, “don’t be stupid, it’s all lies and you will be just fine”. In the meantime I held down my job as a police officer and kept it together, only just mind you.
Fast forward to April 2018, I was told that all allegations were dropped as she was an “unreliable witness”. The sheer relief came out in tears.
What really upset me and still upsets me is how could she do this 2 years after we split? Also, she wasn’t prosecuted or investigated for lies in the online blog, the messages to Twitter followers or lies in her statement, apart from the rape allegation the ones about me accessing police computers and telling her where she is, that’s easily shown to be lies yet she have a statement under caution saying those things.
My life literately could have been destroyed by a bitter, lying ex girlfriend. It was at the time, not now.
In March 2019 I retired after a 30 year career as a police officer. Life has changed so much and I am a better person. I just wish others could see the harm they caused.