I am a man who has been mostly happily married to my wife for over a decade. We have a wonderful family with multiple children and, overall, I’m content. However, In the past year or so I’ve realized that I’m also sexually attracted to men. I don’t know if I’ve always been or if this has been a change over time, but it is part of who I am.
While it’s largely irrelevant to my life as I’m happy in my marriage and don’t want to change anything, the idea of telling my wife still scares me. How would she react? What would she say? I don’t know why, it shouldn’t matter because, again, it doesn’t change a thing. I chose her, I chose our marriage, I’m not going anywhere. But still, the fear persists.
So, I haven’t said anything and I don’t know if I will.