My Mother in law has controlled so many aspects of our life since I met my husband by using the father in laws medical condition as leverage.
“You don’t know how long he has”, “maybe last holiday with Dad” etc.
We’ve been together 6 years.
I’m fed up with sacrificing endlessly as a result and her overstepping by involving me in her BS. Venting things to me that I have to then keep from my husband. Insisting I agree with every thing she does (which she has crossed legal and ethical lines I hold).
Five months ago she called, vented to me for almost 2 hours about my “unacceptable behavior” which was telling my husband my honest opinion on medical aspects of his dads condition. She ended the call with a threat on my life.
This week she asked my husband if I’m still triggered by her. I’ve adopted a policy of non communication and refuse to visit. They live an hour away, she never visits us (thankfully).
I’m FED UP with her ridiculous behavior and blaming me for it.