I was having a chat with a friend the other day when I realised that I don’t actually think I know anyone who has a happy marriage? No, sorry, let me correct that. Out of all of my friends, I can honestly say there are three friends who I can categorically say are super happy and in love. Then there are about two more whose marriages are good, but I don’t envy. I mean, they get on well, they work well together for their kids etc, but they seem to reside in the same house, no fun between them, no love as such, but definitely mutual respect. This is fine, but as I say not a marriage I envy. Then there are those who are just damn unhappy. I mean so unhappy, hate their lives but can’t or won’t see a way out.
So, why the vent you may ask? Why does everyone still want you to be in a relationship? Why do people still think that marriage is the only option for singletons. That, that must be what we are all striving for, and that we are not complete until we have achieved marriage. Isn’t this such an old fashioned way of thinking about life? Like you have failed if you haven’t been married? Or you have failed if you dared to get divorced. I so wish we could release the stigma. Oh and there still is stigma. Whilst I’m sure it is 100 times easier now to say you are divorced now, it still carries a stigma. I for one am proud I divorced. I stood up for myself. I tried my hardest, but I personally am happy that I had the balls to leave.
So, next time you think that maybe my life is not complete, believe me it so is. Is yours?